Robert (Bob) Milano

God Gives Grace to the Loving

Robert (Bob) Milano, father, grandfather, friend, and husband passed away peacefully on Saturday, November 1, 2025 on the feast of All Saints at the age of 71. He was born on February 26, 1954, in Martinez, CA to Albert and Rosalie Milano.

Bob dedicated his life to his faith and civil engineering. As an entrepreneur and a self-starter, he always wanted to pave his own way. He is remembered for starting a thriving family pizza business (Milano's Pizza) with his wife, Antoinette, before working at a civil engineering firm. He eventually started and ran his own civil engineering business, often working with his twin brother, Gary, who worked in surveying.

While Bob very much enjoyed golfing, reading, and talking on the phone with friends, he was most passionate about his Catholic faith. While he left his Catholic faith for a time, he eventually rediscovered his faith after doing much research into the Church fathers. During that time, he found the pearl of great price that was worth giving everything to possess it. Since then, he spoke often about his faith with courage and boldness. He was exceptionally proud to know that his children found and treasured the same pearl of great price. They are eternally grateful to have received it because of him.

Bob was particularly strengthened in his faith towards the end of his life. Bob was famous for often repeating the scripture verse “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Everyone has gifts and imperfections which are often the flip side to the same coin. Thus, while Robert was admirably bold and courageous with his faith, he was at times stubborn. However, in the last year of his life, God poured out His grace upon Robert in abundance as he grew in humility and in love. Where Robert was once stubborn and proud, he became soft and loving. Love became his highest priority.

His son Gabriel particularly notes one of the last conversations with his father. His father said to him again and again in tears “Love,” as if there was nothing more important in the world than that. This reminded Gabriel of a story of St. John the Evangelist. According to St. Jerome, towards the end of St. John’s life, he said again and again to his own disciples “Little children, love one another.” They eventually seemed to get bored of the same sermon and asked him why he kept telling them that. St. John told them “Because it is the Lord’s command, and if this only is done, it is enough.” Gabriel suspects that at the end, Robert understood this essential truth.

Bob was a proud father to three children and their spouses:

1. Michael and his wife Jessica, who gave him his grandson Matteo James.
2. Angela and her husband Jacob Krempel, who gave him his granddaughters Lauren Grace, Natalie Rose, and Amelia May.
3. Gabriel and his wife Jennifer, who gave him his granddaughter Maren Therese.

He is also survived by his older brother David Milano, his twin brother Gary Milano (who was one of the last people allowed to call him "Bobbie"), his former wife and the mother of his children Antoinette Milano, and his nieces and nephews Micaela, Anthony, Dominic, and Christina and their children.

Robert was preceded in death by his mother and father, Albert and Rosalie Milano, and his aunts and uncles Frank, Joanne, John, Ilene, Marie, and Armond.

A funeral mass, burial, and celebration of life will be held on Wednesday November 12th, 2025 at 11:45 AM at Holy Transfiguration Monastery in Redwood Valley, CA.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made in Robert's name to the Monks of Mount Tabor at 17001 Tomki Rd. Redwood Valley, CA 95470 or to the Minor Basilica of Our Lady of the Rosary of Manaoag on Milo St. in Manaoag, Pangasinan in the Philippines.